Sta.sh
A friend was speaking to me about his experience as a divorcée. He said "When you get married, make sure it's forever because you're never really divorced."
What he meant was that emotional ties, financial loose ends and of course, children, will bind you to that failed marriage forever, and haunt you for the rest of your life (and your children's lives).
I proposed a different hypothesis that he just could not accept; however, this theory seemed a lot more reasonable to me: You're never really married.
Civilised society creates so many illusions: the illusion of civility, of hierarchy, of control. The illusion of a god. Marriage is one of these comforting, yet terribly misleading illusions.
A human is born, and develops to sexual maturity. Then comes mating, ensuring that the offspring are successful (within statistically acceptable limits), and death. Where does marriage go into that? Nowhere.
The concept of marriage itself is auxiliary to the laws of nature. What is getting married? It's saying that you'll be together, forever. If it's as real as I think it is, then it hardly exists at all.
Hell, we're not even sure if our marriage systems fit our biology. The general scientific consensus is that humans are mildly polygynous, a term that is practised but not accepted in most developed nations. The clichéd rich guy divorcing his first wife for a younger model is only a cliché because it's true.
Marriage is designed to stabilise society, and grow strong communities which can then out-compete (or destroy) other communities. If you can make a rule that reduces the opportunities for men to kill each other within your own group (and we all know how likely that can happen, and does happen), those men could live to defend your group against other groups.
Here's another characteristic of human nature: men and women who get together often drift apart. Whoever invented marriage also invented divorce at the same time. Legislation can throw in various disincentives to divorce, but it can't change the way you feel. Marriage has nothing to do with human nature at all.
Number one cause of divorce: marriage. Getting married is the real problem here. If we could un-learn having to rely on marriages to stabilise society (and as a personal goal in life), that's a few of the world's problems solved for you right there.
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[ All that's .left. of me is what I .pretend. to be ]
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Have no illusions about reality... since it's real, reality always comes back to bite you in the bum if you don't see it for what it is.
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I love b o y s . . . *innocent look*
[ All that's .left. of me is what I .pretend. to be ]
. . . with o t h e r boys~ <3 *is shot*